You will strongly agree or strongly disagree – but you won’t sit on the fence!

If you like to sit on the fence in general, do not read this article; it will not be good for your health.

Imagine this! Nice cappuccino, snug surroundings, great conversation (well mostly, you’ll have to wait for the punch line) – I am with a good friend. It is him, who dropped this ‘punch line’. And with the unquestionable trust that flows between us, I even got his permission to write what I am about to reveal. Yet, I dare him, the culprit, to unveil himself!

I know you want me to get to the crux of it, but there are a few things to understand first. This is a conversation between a man and a woman with a certain mutual respect; two people who share trusted information and two people who are both undoubtedly prepared to stretch themselves to a limit, and go out on a limb to make a difference. One of them, however, the more masculine one, loves to ‘drop’ things in conversations to get the others juices flowing. And I tell you one thing; my belly is on fire as a result!

He knows it – I think my stare sliced him in two.

His statement – “Women give men an erection, men give women direction!”  (Incidentally he did instantly tell me I was an exception – Possibly in response to my stare – I hope!!) Also, I am certain he does not believe this, however he did point out that there are many people out there that do. I find that unfathomable.

The first thing I would like to point out, is that any time there are two people present, there is in fact the essence of four – whereby each of us are comprised of both the masculine and feminine. In this case, the statement makes little sense.

It is true that we currently live in a patriarchal society and we exist within a framework that has resulted from thousands of years of such a culture embedded into both the male and female psyche. However, the mounting evidence is vast, that for millennia of human history, the chief deity had been female.

Some such evidence comes from ancient societies such as the Minoan, the Goddess, the priestesses, even, may I point out – the scriptures! (How the patriarchal and hierarchical-oriented priests who wrote these specific ‘slips’ with reference to the feminine power allowed these works to be produced – who knows – possibly lack of attention to detail!) My take on the Old Testament is a volume in itself.

I implore – fellow men and women in Ireland, our pre-Christian legends tell us that the Celts worshipped Cerridwen, as the Goddess of intelligence and knowledge.

However, even if we do not want to go there and actually investigate the historical and archaeological evidence – we could simply ponder on why priests wear dresses? I don’t mean to be factious here, I just find it interesting. Sometimes the answer is in front of our faces.

This is not a barrage from the feminine – because the pivotal point is that the pre-eminence of women as both a deity and in life, suggests not an inequality, nor does it suggest in any manner oppression of the masculine. The feminine power is the power of love and compassion. As a race, thousands of years ago, we were strikingly equalitarian. We existed back then in a world of equality, partnership, linking at work, home and in politics.

This is very opposite in nature to the hierarchical and ranking, male-dominated religions, governments and, may I add, medical profession – which seems to govern our place in society and our destiny. A questionable false reality.

This is only a simple taster – and no matter how you are digesting it – the point of the matter is that, I think it is high time we started a true exploration of how we may intercede in a more effective cultural evolution. Have we advanced or have we regressed? How many more great depressions do we have to experience before we truly ‘cop ourselves on’?

I, for one, know that my cappuccino-sharing, masculine friend will be the first to agree. After all, it was I that suggested he come up with the title for this text.

Comments are exceptionally welcome on this one.


About Mairéad Whyte

Published author, Mairéad Whyte guides you toward creativity. She is the author of the novels: ‘All for Grace’, and ‘The Butterfly’ – both quirky novels on love and life. Mairéad is also currently writing her third novel, 'Shining Light : Casting Shadows.' Her writing is endorsed by Miriam O'Callaghan, RTE; several newspapers and; Colm Keane, Award-Winning Journalist and No 1 Best-Selling Author. Mairéad Whyte is a keen mountaineer; and in addition to being a volunteer for the new cancer charity, OvaCare; she is a co-organiser of the Galway Social Club, a member of Network Galway and an associate of Galway’s Junior Chamber. As a personal performance coach, her life-path has integrated her scientific background and her vivacity for life with her vision of spirituality – one that inspires us to be true to our hearts. Mairéad has lived and worked throughout the world. She has presented at many global conferences, has published several newspaper articles and made radio appearances. Born in Cork, she lives in Galway. More information, reviews, acclaims and details of Mairéad’s creative writing classes may be found at
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6 Responses to You will strongly agree or strongly disagree – but you won’t sit on the fence!

  1. Adam Shaw says:

    Dear Mairead,
    This sounds like an interesting chat!
    It is my measured experience that when a man has an erection he is in most need of direction. After all, men were given a penis and a brain but only enough blood to operate one at a time!
    On this basis I’d say that his argument was flawed 😉
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  2. Jonathan says:

    Hey darling, I like it! Actually I think priests were robes due to the ancient androgynous nature associated with the role of one who acts as representative of the Gods – the gods being neither male nor female in essence – only in their role-play. He was a brave man who landed that remark into a conversation with a woman. I’d say you know how I see it. Keep that fire in the belly, great place to write from. J xx

    • Mairéad says:

      What a wonderful point! I think the androgynous nature reflects the equality, linking and partnership, neither male nor female being dominant. Thank you!

      The ‘robe’ hence is visibly questionable and should be a marker to encourage curiosity in such a male-dominant society. When we open our eyes we can ask the questions. It is right that neither sex reigns over the other. Again, this takes us back to by our embedded meaning of what to reign or have power means!

      Yes, I am aware how you would see this comment. And I am looking forward to plenty more about the essence of our beings in your blog 🙂

      Love, Mairéad.

  3. Debbie says:

    although I struggle for my own direction I dont follow either -and believe women are the driving force behind many, either directly or even perhaps more covertly! dare I say. I’m a watcher and rarely comment or express an opinion,(internal internal!!) but love your theory and argument on this one.

    Keep it flowing

    • Mairéad says:

      Thanks Debbie. It is wonderful to provide a space for us to voice our opinions. I think clearly that combined with your gentle nature and unique voice, it will be wonderful to hear so much more from you.
      Love, Mairéad.

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